Anyway, enough about where I'm typing hey?
If you didn't know, It's World breast-feeding week and really breast-feeding month. I love breast-feeding. It however, has not always come so naturally to me. When my first baby was born, I was very ready to nurse this sweet blessing from God. All went well enough at the hospital, until I meet with the lactation consultant (if thats what she really was, I don't know) She told me I had inverted nipples and handed my a nipple shield and a prescription for a breast pump.
I instantly, thought I was broken. It broke my heart. I didn't know what to do after that. My husband and mom were very supportive and tried to encourage me, but This was new for all of us. I cried and tried to feed my baby. I pumped like crazy day and night. All while trying to nurse. But I really felt like I just couldn't do it. After just a couple of weeks, I gave in to pumping only. After What seemed like forever (it was only 3 months) I started formula feeding.
All This time I was also struggling with, just not feeling like a good mom. I put on a good face in public, but I was Sad! I just wanted to be able to feed and nurture my baby.
In an attempt to gain some sanity I started a rather strict schedule. And a cry it out method of Parenting. Most people would have thought, I had it all together. I thought I had it together. I was "that mom" that pushed sleep training (sorry friends) But inside I felt like a failure. Silly? Maybe. But it was what it was.
My son paid the price for my unattached parenting style. I just wasn't always nurturing. I was so focused on being the perfect parent. Or rather, having the perfect baby.
After 4 years I was pregnant again. This time I was determined to breast-feed.
After The birth of my second son, I meet the most wonderful lactation consultants in the world. At the hospital they had a breast-feeding support group every single tuesday. It was a come and go group. they usually had 2 lactation consultants, and doctor in the room. You could have your baby weighed and talk to a dr, or lactation consultant. They were sooooo helpful and supportive and great problem solvers.
I went every week. They were so encouraging. They helped me more then I can say. I am so Thankful for them (I'm tearing up a little) They also helped me know, I was not a bad mom for not nursing my first baby. They helped me understand how to nurture him now along with my new baby.
The next thing that helped me was Dr Sears website. I went to the problem solving page and would read it on my phone while I was breast-feeding. It was so helpful to read that having inverted nipples isn't a hindrance to breast-feeding, because baby should be latching on the whole areola not the nipple anyway! I was a very encouraging website. also Some of his books
are great (I don't agree with all of it, but they were so encouraging)
I also found (and later read) that breast-feeding can very much help the baby blues. I found this to be true. but also letting go of my crazy dictator schedule and just really enjoyed being with each baby also helped a lot.
I gave up some of the control and tried to let God and His word lead. This book was helpful Brestfeeding and Catholic Motherhood
I have now breast-fed 3 of my 4 children. tandem nursed #2 and #3 together and #3 and #4 together. I read this while pregnant with #3 to try and prepare. I am now only nursing the youngest.
Mothering is quite the adventure and breast-feeding is no exception.
How has your nursing relationship been?